Confidence exists on a spectrum. On one end, insecure. On the other, confident. I’d say I lean towards the confident side. In a conversation about solo travel, my friend once remarked that I’m one of the most fearless people she knows. And she’d be right. I went through my insecure phase in my teens, travelled alone in my early twenties, dealt with a lot of hardship along with way, and those things combined made me blossom out of my cocoon into the glorious self-assured mid-twenties woman I am today. I’m not walking around with my nose in the air, but I know my own worth. I’m what you call quietly confident.
However, that confidence quickly begins to evaporate when it comes to men.
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I was talking to one of my friends about dating at a gathering last weekend.
“Why do you think I’m single?”, I asked.
“Well, you’re looking for something that’s counter-cultural”, he said. “You’re kind of… dating in the wrong era.”
And all of a sudden- BAM- everything fell into place.
In life, sometimes I feel like I’m trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Particularly when dating.
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Met this guy on Plenty of Fish. Went for a drink in a bar. Went well enough. Not 100% sure on the spark, but he was 6’4″, pretty masculine, we got on well enough, and he seemed like a nice, relationship-minded guy. So a second date was arranged.
I asked him where he wanted to go.
“Your room but failing that, how about Purl in Marylebone?”
Wait… what?!? My room?!
Continue reading “The Fuckzone”
I’m not sure about you, but I find dating apps tend to be a bit samey. Tinder gained massive success due to it’s simplicity. You see a few pictures of someone and a short bio. Swipe right for yes. Swipe left for no. If you both said yes, you match and you can talk. So easy. So effective. It’s no surprise that a lot of other dating apps on the market tend to offer some variation of the same format.
Then you have the personality-based dating apps. The ones where you can talk, but have to wait a while to see a picture with the aim of making the process less shallow. The problem is, you can’t judge personality over an app. I mean yeah if they’re weird over messages it’s best not to meet in person, but it’s very easy to present yourself differently online to how you are in the flesh. Which is why you kind of have to be shallow until you meet in person… then judge personality.
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I’ve always hated Valentine’s Day. Nothing wrong with the concept of course, just the fact that every year, I inevitably end up lacking a Valentine. The only relationship I’ve been in was during October-November, and the one time I had a promising Tinder date which happened to fall on Valentine’s Day, he flaked on the day. So evidently, me and Valentine’s Day don’t mix.
This is why I loved the idea of Smudged Lipstick’s Anti Valentine’s Day Party. Instead of reenacting the scene in Bridget Jones’ Diary where she starts singing along to “All By Myself” alone in her flat, singles of London can head out to a party, have a good time, and you never know, you might just meet next year’s Valentine there!
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I went on a first date with a guy from Plenty of Fish the other week, and he mentioned that he finds he ends up going on a lot of first dates, but not many seconds. I realised I actually find the same too. With modern dating, particularly in a city like London, it’s pretty easy to line up another date, so unless you were in love after the first date, you don’t end up meeting again.
The positive side to this however, is that I’ve become a bit of a first date expert. I know what I like, what I don’t like, where works, and where doesn’t. So I’m here today to share my pearls of wisdom.
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So this blog has been up and running for a few months now, and I’ve managed to share quite a few of my own views regarding the topic of dating. However, today I’m going to share something a bit different.
One of the things I love about blogging is that it’s interactive. It’s not just about posting an article then fucking off. It’s about interacting on social media, going to events, discovering other cool blogs, and meeting other cool bloggers. So here’s a shoutout to some other great dating writers I think you should be following.
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