Thoughts

The Modern Traditionalist

For the liberals amongst you, this may go straight over your heads. But the conservative gals amongst my readership may get where I’m coming from. When browsing our corner of the internet, I often hear not altogether supportive comments about female right-wing media personalities like Lauren Southern.

They usually go along the lines of:

“She preaches about traditionalism but she’s not married!”

“If she was really conservative, she’d be pushing a stroller by the age of 22!”

“She can’t be traditional, she goes on dates/ goes to bars!”

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Lists

Dating Advice That Hasn’t Worked For Me

Dating advice is always a minefield. Partly because you don’t need any form of qualifications before dishing out, and partly because people are so different that there’s rarely a “one size fits all” approach. I’ve written before about the bad dating advice that single people always hear. But today I decided to go down a slightly different route, and talk about the dating advice that hasn’t worked for me.

That isn’t to say it’s bad advice. For each point on the list, I know several people who have followed that advice and ended up in long-term serious relationships. I’m just saying that particular piece of advice hasn’t worked for me.

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Guest Posts · Thoughts

Guest Post: How To Be A Keeper, Not A Pusher

Today I’m publishing my first ever (and what will hopefully be the first of many!) guest post on this blog. This one is by body and mind balance consultant Isabel Williams. Enjoy!

We live in a digital age and have constant internet access. Most of us have at least one social media account and we use it to post our thoughts online. Thanks to social media, we can reach out to our friends/followers and gain their approval by getting likes, comments and additional followers. It makes us feel as if we were celebrities because we have people reading about our dinner with friends or liking our new selfie.

But some people go as far as to associate that number of likes/retweets with how people see them, how people perceive their qualities and flaws. They start feeling insecure about their identities as soon as there is no positive reaction to their posts. So, they start obsessing with posting as much interesting content as they can think of just to make themselves appear more appealing, more interesting. More likes, more retweets, more comments, more reactions… ‘That means they like me.’

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Lists

5 Reasons I’m A Bad Dating Blogger

Some people with the aim of making more money, breaking out of the 9-5, or becoming the next Zoella. While those things would be great, even if you told me I’d never make a penny from this blog and my following would be capped at the number it is now, I would still blog. Because I love writing about dating. It’s something I think about around 90% of the time. So it gives me joy to formulate my thoughts into blog post, hear your feedback, and chat about it with strangers on Twitter.

But I got thinking. I’m actually a really bad dating blogger. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not being self-deprecating about my writing style. But if you were looking for a dating writer and looked at my life, I’m probably the last person you’d pick.

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Thoughts

The Three Layers Of Love

In my opinion at least, a successful relationship is made up of 3 main components.

Originally, I was going to call this post “The Three Components Of Love”, however, I realised there is a definite order in which we notice these qualities. From my experience, the first quality must be there for us to notice the second quality, and so on. In a way, love works a bit like an onion, where one layer must be peeled to access the next layer.

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Reviews

This Is Why You’re Single Book Review

One of the problems with a lot of the dating advice on the market today is that it’s a little out of date. With the explosion of dating apps and the cultural shift in morals, some of the dating advice books I absolutely LOVED in my late teens are a little out of date in today’s dating market with regards to some of the advice offered. And some “dating experts” are horrendously out of touch- not naming names but if you’ve been married for decades are you really qualified to be doling out dating advice in 2017?

One book that isn’t out of date though, is This Is Why You’re Single, by Laura Lane and Angela Spera, published by Blink Publishing. Inspired by their own dating misadventures, the authors decided to put together a sketch comedy show in 2013, and following on from this a book and a podcast in 2015. And for anyone currently on the dating scene- it’s so relatable!

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