My previous post was about 2017. But that’s all water under the bridge now. Any drama that happened that year? That’s in the past. It’s time to move forward.
This year, I haven’t set myself new year’s resolutions as such. But I have set myself some goals to work towards, and I guess an overall vision of where I want my life to go. So without further ado, here are the main things I want to achieve this year.
Find a boyfriend
I’m going to turn 27 next year. That’s my late twenties- yikes! I wanted to be married by 25 yet I haven’t even had a serious relationship. So this year, I’m going to make dating a priority. I’ve tried to do this in previous years but work has always got in the way, so now is the time. I’m going to invest in a dating coach to try and work out where I’m going wrong, along with refining my dating methods and learning along the way. I also want to try and expand my social circle with likeminded people and try and meet someone that way as that’s how I’ve always met people I liked in the past.
Grow this blog
In the year or so since I launched this blog, I’ve gained a modest amount of followers. My follower counts on WordPress and social media are the highest I’ve ever had on a blog. But frustratingly, my page views have remained static. And I want to grow. Writing for the sake of writing is great, but if I’m spending a large proportion of my spare time working on something, it would be nice to receive some form of recognition for it.
So next year, I aim to grow to the next level. I thought about diversifying into more lifestyle-based content to attract more blogger readers, but I find the engagement in the lifestyle community is poor. Ultimately, I need the readers who aren’t bloggers. So I’m going to try and gain more readers through Medium or guest posting. I also want to improve the layout and step up my photography game to make it look more professional and have an enviable Instagram feed.
One of the things I’ve always really wanted to do is be able to speak another language. I just think it’s such a good skill to have. Sadly I wasn’t that interested in school so I failed to take up the opportunity when I had the chance, and now I really regret not doing a language course at university. No point dwelling on the past, but I know I’ll look back and regret in future if I never try, so I want to learn a language. I used to go to Swahili meetups and still know a bit, but to be honest that’s not much use outside Tanzania or Kenya, and don’t see myself going back anytime soon, so I thought I’d try learning Spanish. Which leads me onto…
Volunteer with turtles in Costa Rica
I’ve been to Europe (obviously), Africa, and Asia, so the next destination is… SOUTH AMERICA! OK so technically Costa Rica is central America not south, but I’ve found this AMAZING turtle volunteering project where you pay a small fee to volunteer at a turtle sanctuary. It’s a great experience and all the money you pay goes back into running the sanctuary and employing local staff so it’s really ethical too. In my second week I’ll most likely backpack around, stay in a hostel, do activities, and speak Spanish.
I’ve always agreed with the principles behind turning vegan, but I’ve always felt like I wouldn’t be able to live off the diet. But I guess you don’t fully know what something will be like until you try it, so this year I want to try doing Veganuary. I’ll probably end up phasing animal products back in afterwards as I don’t think I’d be able to sustain it long-term, but I at least want to cut down and eat more plant-based food to do my bit to support animals.
Get fit and be healthy
A couple of years ago, I was seriously into my fitness. When I was training to climb Kilimanjaro, I went to the gym 4/5 times a week and had thighs of steel and noticeable abs. Last year however, my work schedule has meant my fitness has seriously dropped, and I want to get it back. The goal is to negotiate some remote working, then try and at least go to the gym 2-3 times a week, even if the commute means I can’t go as often as I otherwise would do.
Hold people to a higher standard
I started to do this last year, but I aim to continue this trend into 2018. I think back to behaviour I tolerated from people when I was younger and wonder what the hell I was thinking. The guy who made me wait around for 4 months while he decided whether he wanted to date me or not, then wanted to date someone else at the same time as me. The friend who insisted on inviting a girl who was making my life hell over for predrinks. No more. If someone is not a decent person who reciprocates interest in me, they’re gone.
This works both ways, and on a smaller scale too. I’m fed up with spending my time on dates that go nowhere doing activities I don’t enjoy because a guy doesn’t want to commit to a 2 hour meal. If the first date has to be drinks, I at least want there to be a chance it will go somewhere, so I aim to be more picky in who I meet, making sure there is at least a chance we will fancy each other, and we have the same dating goals.
What do you want to achieve in 2018? Let me know in the comments!