For those of you unfamiliar, Hannah Witton is a pretty famous vlogger who covers sex and relationships, along with some lifestyle and politics/ feminism stuff too. She won Best Sex & Relationships Influencer at the Cosmopolitan Influencer Awards last year, and this year she released a book on sex and relationships, brilliantly titled Doing It.
I’m one of the few people who seemed to have a positive sex education growing up. I had sex education in school at age 9 that covered how it works, contraception, not getting pressured and the like, and I learned a fair amount from teenage magazines too. But looking back, it was quite one-sided. It seemed to be the expectation that you’d get a boyfriend, fall in love, agonize as to whether you’re “ready”, then have sex. So I got to 18 yet to find a boyfriend and was like whaaaaa? But plenty of people don’t get into a relationship until their twenties. Some people aren’t that fussed about sex “meaning something”. Some people are gay, bisexual, or asexual. Some people just aren’t that interested in sex or relationships at all.
In a nutshell, Doing It is pretty much the sex education stuff I read in my teens, but all-inclusive. There are chapters on relationships, losing your virginity, contraception, and STIs, but also LGBTQ+, consent, porn, and sexting. Each chapter is fairly short and easy to digest; chapters are divided into subchapters and alternates between prose and Q&A format. They’re also divided up with guest pieces from different authors to offer a different perspective, for example dating as a gay women, or trans person.
Overall, the book is nicely written with a chatty, informal writing style, and does a good job of covering all perspectives non-judgmentally. I find a lot of the “sex positive” stuff irritating as I find people will complain about “slut shaming” yet see no issue with shaming someone for not having sex for whatever reason, but the book is quite open in all directions, and even covers “prude shaming” in the sex shaming chapter. Although it’s still interesting and relevant to people in their twenties, I feel the book is more geared towards teenagers. Although I enjoyed it now, I feel like I need something a little more meaty- something a bit deeper, more political, or just more anecdotes or a perspective I’ve never heard before- but perhaps that’s just me. But it would be absolutely PERFECT for my teenage self. So to summarise: if you’re still in school and figuring it all out- this book is your go-to guide, and if you’re in your twenties, it’s probably worth a read too.
You can buy Doing It from Amazon, and check out Hannah’s YouTube channel here.