Thoughts

Friend-Ghosting

It’s Halloween, and to celebrate, I’m writing something themed. I’ve already covered ghosting in this post (summary: don’t do it), so I thought I’d cover a variation of this sadly common occurrence: friend-ghosting. Same principle as ghosting- but you were just friends.

I’ve been a bit of a boomerang when it comes to moving out. I’m currently back home, but I’ve had stints living in London- once for four months, once for just over a year. The first time I was so busy training for my Kilimanjaro climb, fundraising, and writing I kind of neglected the social side, however the second time around I was determined to live the city-girl fantasy life. I had a couple of friends in London, so the plan was to sneak in with their crew and go from there.

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Reviews

Christian Speed Dating @ Speed Dater Review

I’ve had a bit of an on-off relationship with religion. I went to Church as a kid, but it eventually fizzled down to just Christmas and Easter. Then I got fed up with the Christians I hung around with at university and became an atheist. However over the past couple of years I’ve come around to the idea of religion again, and recently I’ve been toying with the idea of dating a Christian. I guess I’m old fashioned in the sense that I feel like sharing my body with someone has some form of significance, so I can’t stand the mentality that some men have where they want to have a go on you to see if you’re “worth” dating. So sometimes I feel like a religious man with more traditional values could be what I’m looking for. I once tried using Christian Connection, but it’s just a generally bad site (that’s a post for a whole other time), which was a shame because it seemed like everyone on the site was looking for a genuine relationship, and in terms of politics most people had listed themselves as conservatives. So I decided to give Christian speed dating a go.

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Thoughts

Dating Someone With Different Political Views

“Swipe left if you voted leave”

“Don’t message me if you voted for Trump”

“No Tories”

“No SJWs”

Political activism is on the rise. Log onto social media and it seems like everyone has an opinion. Scan through people’s dating app bios and it appears when it comes to finding a match, those opinions matter. But should they?

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Thoughts

Why You Should Be Picky

A week ago, I was shopping on ASOS. My profile pictures are looking a little tired, so to liven things up I was planning on doing a photoshoot with my photographer friend. I needed a new dress or skirt and top combo that would reflect my “brand”, as it were. Something pretty. Not to smart, not too casual. Feminine, fairly modest but still sexy. Modern traditional. I couldn’t seem to find anything that seemed right. Eventually I settled on one little number, but I just wasn’t sure. I wasn’t that enthusiastic. So I left it.

Later on, I took at look at the River Island website, and saw this gorgeous 1950s style tea dress. In 5 DIFFERENT COLOURS. So I bought my favourite, stuck the others on my Christmas list, and was so happy I didn’t buy the other one.

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Lists

The 4 Types Of First Dates

Advances in technology mean that as long as you’re not weird over messages, it’s easier to get a first date than ever before. However, not all first dates are created equal. Unless you massively luck out, before you meet The One, you’ve got a hell of a lot of first dates to sift through who are well, not The One. So behold, here’s my quick guide to the main types of first dates you can expect to encounter.

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Thoughts

Hindsight & Life Lessons

Sometimes I get frustrated with my lack of progress in dating. I’ve been on the apps for a good few years now but it’s been a fruitless endeavor. Sometimes I worry that I’m going to get older and it’s just going to get harder and harder.

But as I was reading through a post on The Rules Revisited yesterday, I realised that age and dating mishaps bring one advantage: experience. With experience comes lessons learned, that can help you in your dating life moving forward.

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Thoughts

No Ghosting: Why Bad Behaviour In Dating Is Not OK

Things were looking promising for fellow dating blogger Anna Hopeful. She’d been on three good dates with a guy, all pretty close together, and they were in the process of arranging a fourth. Until all of a sudden, he blocked her on WhatsApp and unmatched her on the app they met on with no explanation.

After some discussion on Twitter, another blogger decided to set up an account called “Ghost Buster”, to name and shame ghosters. Pretty soon, people were sending in their ghosting stories, which were then published along with the guys’ names and pictures.

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