There’s been a lot of talk in the press as of late about Romanian 18 year old Aleexandra Khefren who is looking to sell her virginity for 1 million Euros.
Instead of doing the classic waiting for the “right guy”, finding a lovely boyfriend at some point in your late teens, having a big debate as to whether you’re “ready” or not before finally doing the deed, Aleexandra decided instead that she would sell her virginity to the highest bidder, and use the money to study at a university abroad and help out her parents.
Here she is on This Morning:
So what’s my point of view on the issue? Well, let’s rewind to a conversation I had with a friend a few years ago. Basically, I’m as conservative as they come when it comes to sex, however I was considering becoming a stripper as I had no idea what else to do with my life after university. We were talking about sex, and suddenly he was like:
“So I get that you don’t want to sleep around, but if that’s the case, why would you have no issue with becoming a stripper?!”
My argument was as follows. (Disclaimer: these are just my opinions) I believe that sex is something that should be valued. I disagree with the hook-up culture in our society, and instead believe that sex should be reserved for romantic relationships. If I felt enough for someone to sleep with them, I’d want the sex to mean something to the other party too, and lead into something more serious, and therefore would feel degraded if they then decided to hit and run.
Being a stripper on the other hand is empowering. You look fierce, are admired and feel sexy. Yeah, the guys may brag and make degrading comments to the lads afterwards, but ultimately the stripper has the last laugh… all the way to the bank.
I wouldn’t personally consider being an escort unless I was destitute poor and had a family to feed, but others aren’t as bothered- and they’re the real winners in that situation as they’re the ones making money.
Selling your virginity is ultimately just a more niche form of prostitution, that evidently comes with a higher price tag. I totally agree with Holly Willoughby that virginity is something that should be special, and shared with someone you trust and love (sadly though I think she’d get shouted down if she said that to a group of twenty-somethings). The presenters also raise some valid points (ALWAYS use a condom!). However, at the same time, I’d sleep with anyone for a million Euros.
Once they hit 18 or so (although sometimes even younger), women are shamed for being virgins. They are classed as “losers”, called “frigid”, and told to “get it over with”. So why is it acceptable that women should be told to have sex with a stranger when they don’t want to, and have the man and western society benefit, and gain nothing for herself other than regret and bad memories, yet at the same time it’s unacceptable to her to to sleep with a stranger and gain a million Euros from the experience?
Ultimately, your body is your own. So long as you’re over the age of consent, it’s up to you who you sleep with and in what scenario you want to lose your virginity. And that includes whether it’s love, sex, money, or even never at all.