lifestyle · Thoughts

Balancing Friendships & Relationships

Who should come first- your friends or your partner? Is it OK to drop your friends for a guy? A question as old as the chicken or the egg dilemma, and one everyone will have a different answer to- that is likely to change with time.

When I was younger, I was very much in the “hoes before bros” camp. The combination of being very tall and very shy meant I was completely dateless throughout my teenage years; while others waltzed in and out of relationships, I was always the single friend. A couple of times, my friends would get into a more serious relationship, and I felt a shift.  We’d spend less time together. They’d bring their boyfriend along to events. I got “divorced” on Facebook so my friend could put herself as “in a relationship” with her boyfriend. I got, I suppose, downgraded in their list of priorities, which hurt because they still held the same place in mine. And I mean relationships come and go, but friends are there for life, so they should come first, right?

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#AntiBullyingWeek: Bullying In The Blogosphere

This week is #AntiBullyingWeek, and to celebrate, I thought I’d make my first foray into lifestyle content by writing about bullying in the blogosphere.

Don’t get me wrong. When I’ve attended blogger events, the people I’ve met have been lovely. I’ve made a few good friends through this blog. I’ve been to a handful of meetups with the dating community, and everyone there has been really friendly and nice. I’ve spoken to plenty of bloggers via social media who have all been perfectly lovely people.

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London Date Ideas

Fitzrovia Date Ideas

I think Fitzrovia is the perfect place for a first date. Mainly because I work there, so it’s convenient for me. Jokes aside though, Fitzrovia is nice and central meeting point, plenty to see and do, and a backdrop worthy of Instagram. On the downside though, a lot of the venues tend to be a little overpriced, and a lot of the bars tend to be private members-only venues. But fear not, I’ve put together a list of Fitzrovia date ideas that, although super-cool, won’t break the bank.

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Thoughts

Why Is No-One Blogging About Dating Anymore?

Something has shifted in the blogosphere. It’s something I’ve been feeling for a while. But no-one has really mentioned it. Until now.

Why is no-one blogging about dating?

A few years ago, I set up an anonymous blog for a bit to document my online dating experiences, along with a random mishmash of travel and lifestyle posts. During this time, Charly Lester’s 30 Dates Blog was in full force (which was one of my favourite dating blogs OF ALL TIME for the record), along with several other big dating blogs. Then, there was a huge community of smaller dating blogs, both on WordPress and on social media. I’d have people comment on my blog, find other cool blogs to follow, and have tonnes of engaging, dating-related content to devour.

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Friend-Ghosting

It’s Halloween, and to celebrate, I’m writing something themed. I’ve already covered ghosting in this post (summary: don’t do it), so I thought I’d cover a variation of this sadly common occurrence: friend-ghosting. Same principle as ghosting- but you were just friends.

I’ve been a bit of a boomerang when it comes to moving out. I’m currently back home, but I’ve had stints living in London- once for four months, once for just over a year. The first time I was so busy training for my Kilimanjaro climb, fundraising, and writing I kind of neglected the social side, however the second time around I was determined to live the city-girl fantasy life. I had a couple of friends in London, so the plan was to sneak in with their crew and go from there.

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Reviews

Christian Speed Dating @ Speed Dater Review

I’ve had a bit of an on-off relationship with religion. I went to Church as a kid, but it eventually fizzled down to just Christmas and Easter. Then I got fed up with the Christians I hung around with at university and became an atheist. However over the past couple of years I’ve come around to the idea of religion again, and recently I’ve been toying with the idea of dating a Christian. I guess I’m old fashioned in the sense that I feel like sharing my body with someone has some form of significance, so I can’t stand the mentality that some men have where they want to have a go on you to see if you’re “worth” dating. So sometimes I feel like a religious man with more traditional values could be what I’m looking for. I once tried using Christian Connection, but it’s just a generally bad site (that’s a post for a whole other time), which was a shame because it seemed like everyone on the site was looking for a genuine relationship, and in terms of politics most people had listed themselves as conservatives. So I decided to give Christian speed dating a go.

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