Thoughts

Dating Etiquette

The explosion of dating apps is both a blessing and a curse. One the one hand, we’re now no longer fucked if we don’t find someone at school or university. No longer reduced to keeping your fingers crossed for an office romance, you now have access to unlimited amounts of singles looking to mingle at your fingertips.

However, increased choice and decreased consequences has also led to a decline in standards to behaviour. From ghosting to benching to hyping, new terms are invented every week to describe people’s shitty actions.

So to raise the tone, I’ve decided to do my bit for the dating scene, and put together a quick guide to dating etiquette.

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Thoughts

When You’ve Never Dated Anyone

“You should enjoy being single!”, people say. And I guess they’re right. I mean, you have to enjoy your life. There’s no point being miserable when you can be happy. I mean, you’ve got friends, hobbies, travel. A relationship isn’t the be all and end all. And at least if you’re single, you don’t have to shave your legs as often or spend time with someone else’s family.

Except, if you’ve never really dated anyone.

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Dating Tales

The Guy Who Walked Out Halfway Through A Date To Go To IKEA

I don’t know why, but the quality on the apps at the moment is really poor. The quality on Tinder is usually a bit better than online dating due to lower barriers to entry, and I’ve met a couple of decent people off it this year, but since I started my new job and got back on it, it’s just been dreadful. I find myself swiping left to almost everyone. And those I do talk to end up fizzling off after a few messages.

But all of a sudden, this French guy who’d disappeared for a few days popped up asking to meet up for a drink. I’m not usually into Europeans, but looks-wise he was definitely my type, so I went into the date with a positive outlook.

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Lists

5 Facts About Me

Some of you may have been following this blog for a while (and hopefully enjoying my posts). Some of you may have just stumbled across this page and are wondering what the hell this is all about.

If you are a regular reader, you’re probably used to my hard-hitting dating features or bad date stories. But today, I decided to do something a little different and give some background on the girl behind the blog. And if you’re a new reader, well, this is probably a great place to start.

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Miscellaneous

The Liebster Award

For those of you unfamiliar with the concept (which I was up until I got nominated), The Liebster Award the brainchild of The Global Aussie- the aim is to help smaller bloggers grow and discover new blogs. If you are nominated for the award, you must answer all the questions set by the nominator, then nominate other bloggers, and so it spreads.

I was nominated for the award by the lovely Travel Bear, a travel and lifestyle blogger who seems to share by bad luck in dating. I then also got nominated by fellow dating blogger Eve Greenow, so decided to make this post into a bit of a fusion between the two sets of questions.

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Dating Tales

The Forbidden Fruit: Why You Shouldn’t Pursue People In Relationships

So in a few of my more “advice” type posts, I’ve skated across the idea that you shouldn’t pursue people in relationships. These things are easier said than done however, so to show you why, I thought I’d share a story from my own dating life.

The story started on my 22nd birthday. I was on my gap year, volunteer teaching in Tanzania, and to celebrate myself and the other volunteers were going to an expat bar then to a nightclub in town. Unfortunately, my birthday happened to fall in the month where previous volunteers had gone home, and new volunteers were yet to arrive, so I was celebrating with two girls who don’t drink. Halfway through our uneventful time at the bar, they informed me that they didn’t want to go to a nightclub, so we were just going to stay here for a bit then go home.

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Reviews

The Inner Circle App Review

My first experience of The Inner Circle happened about 3 years ago when I was fairly new to online dating. I’d received an invite onto the site when I met the founder at an event, and was excited to try it out. I received a message from an investment banker 10 years my senior, which was older than I’d dated before but I figured he’d be more mature, and I envisioned the cultured, confident banker type. I got there and he’d lied down about his age by at least 10 years, and was, for want of a better phrase, a bit weird. I then got chatted up by this weird African guy on the train home.

I never used the site again.

However, one of my friends started using The Inner Circle dating app, and said she was meeting higher quality guys from it, so I decided to get back on the horse and give it a whirl.

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