Thoughts

The One Snog Rule

I have a confession to make. For a good girl, I’ve often had a tendancy to go for, for want of a better phrase, bad guys.

On my last night out in Tanzania during my gap year, (under the influence of alcohol) I kissed this guy I liked who was generally a bit of a dick and may have had a girlfriend at the time. We also semi-arranged to meet up on my last day. But when he texted me the next day to make plans, I had Taylor Swift’s “Girl At Home” playing on my iPod, and began reflecting. Perhaps in order to stop meeting bad guys, I had to, well, stop meeting bad guys. So I declined the invitation, and that was that. I expected to feel some sort of warm glow for “doing the right thing”, or for karma to align and a nice guy would suddenly appear from the sky. But instead, I just felt empty, and a sense of regret started to creep in. I mean, I was there for one more day. I was never going to see him again. Why not just go, and enjoy a flirt, a bit of attention, and a makeout session?

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Miscellaneous

The UK Dating Awards 2017

Last week, there was what was referred to as the “Christmas party” of the dating industry- the UK Dating Awards.

The UK Dating Awards were set up in 2014 by Charly Lester, the author of the #1 dating blog at the time The 30 Dates Blog. She noticed that there weren’t really any awards to celebrate the best of the dating industry- for example, in blogging, she’d often have to enter the general “lifestyle” category as there wasn’t a category for dating blogs. So she set up the awards to provide some form of recognition for the best in the industry, but more importantly, to gather everyone together to network have a great evening.

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Reviews

Doing It by Hannah Witton Review

For those of you unfamiliar, Hannah Witton is a pretty famous vlogger who covers sex and relationships, along with some lifestyle and politics/ feminism stuff too. She won Best Sex & Relationships Influencer at the Cosmopolitan Influencer Awards last year, and this year she released a book on sex and relationships, brilliantly titled Doing It.

I’m one of the few people who seemed to have a positive sex education growing up. I had sex education in school at age 9 that covered how it works, contraception, not getting pressured and the like, and I learned a fair amount from teenage magazines too. But looking back, it was quite one-sided. It seemed to be the expectation that you’d get a boyfriend, fall in love, agonize as to whether you’re “ready”, then have sex. So I got to 18 yet to find a boyfriend and was like whaaaaa? But plenty of people don’t get into a relationship until their twenties. Some people aren’t that fussed about sex “meaning something”. Some people are gay, bisexual, or asexual. Some people just aren’t that interested in sex or relationships at all.

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lifestyle · Thoughts

Balancing Friendships & Relationships

Who should come first- your friends or your partner? Is it OK to drop your friends for a guy? A question as old as the chicken or the egg dilemma, and one everyone will have a different answer to- that is likely to change with time.

When I was younger, I was very much in the “hoes before bros” camp. The combination of being very tall and very shy meant I was completely dateless throughout my teenage years; while others waltzed in and out of relationships, I was always the single friend. A couple of times, my friends would get into a more serious relationship, and I felt a shift.  We’d spend less time together. They’d bring their boyfriend along to events. I got “divorced” on Facebook so my friend could put herself as “in a relationship” with her boyfriend. I got, I suppose, downgraded in their list of priorities, which hurt because they still held the same place in mine. And I mean relationships come and go, but friends are there for life, so they should come first, right?

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lifestyle

#AntiBullyingWeek: Bullying In The Blogosphere

This week is #AntiBullyingWeek, and to celebrate, I thought I’d make my first foray into lifestyle content by writing about bullying in the blogosphere.

Don’t get me wrong. When I’ve attended blogger events, the people I’ve met have been lovely. I’ve made a few good friends through this blog. I’ve been to a handful of meetups with the dating community, and everyone there has been really friendly and nice. I’ve spoken to plenty of bloggers via social media who have all been perfectly lovely people.

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London Date Ideas

Fitzrovia Date Ideas

I think Fitzrovia is the perfect place for a first date. Mainly because I work there, so it’s convenient for me. Jokes aside though, Fitzrovia is nice and central meeting point, plenty to see and do, and a backdrop worthy of Instagram. On the downside though, a lot of the venues tend to be a little overpriced, and a lot of the bars tend to be private members-only venues. But fear not, I’ve put together a list of Fitzrovia date ideas that, although super-cool, won’t break the bank.

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