Dating

Why Is No-One Blogging About Dating Anymore?

November 5, 2017
why is no-one blogging about dating anymore

Something has shifted in the blogosphere. It’s something I’ve been feeling for a while. But no-one has really mentioned it. Until now.

Why is no-one blogging about dating?

A few years ago, I set up an anonymous blog for a bit to document my online dating experiences, along with a random mishmash of travel and lifestyle posts. During this time, Charly Lester’s 30 Dates Blog was in full force (which was one of my favourite dating blogs OF ALL TIME for the record), along with several other big dating blogs. Then, there was a huge community of smaller dating blogs, both on WordPress and on social media. I’d have people comment on my blog, find other cool blogs to follow, and have tonnes of engaging, dating-related content to devour.

why is no-one blogging about dating anymore

Fast-forward to today. In the UK, I’d say there are three main dating blogs. As for small to medium size blogs, there are a handful… but that’s it.  There’s a definite dating-related community on Twitter, but most of those people are tweeters, not bloggers. While fashion, beauty, and lifestyle blogs seem to be multiplying like rabbits, it seems people just don’t want to write about dating anymore.

So why is that? I’ve come up with three possible reasons:

1. There’s not as much of a market

The beauty blogging marketplace, for example, is oversaturated. The plus side of this though is that there are a lot of people reading beauty content and looking to follow and interact with other beauty bloggers. Although it’s harder to stand out, it shouldn’t be too difficult to build an audience. The fact that there are fewer dating bloggers makes it easier to stand out, however there are fewer people looking to read your content.

2. It’s not that lucrative

Sure, if you you build your following up to 10K you’ll probably get a few brand collabs. However, the fact that it’s still a smaller industry means you’ll get far fewer opportunities than you would if you blogged about say, fashion. In the lifestyle niches, you can probably get a decent bit of side hustle with a modest following.

3. There’s a bit of a time limit

A big part of dating blogging is blogging about bad dates, single life, and so forth. But everyone finds someone eventually, and when you do, content material tends to dry up a bit.

These are all perfectly valid reasons. However, I still think we should start blogging about dating again. Here’s why:

1. It’s great reading

No disrespect to any of the beauty, fashion, and lifestyle bloggers out there. They’re all great content creators who have a lot of fans who love the work they do. But I find a lot of that content can get a bit… samey. I don’t want to read about lipstick. I’d rather read a longer length piece of prose with an opinion, even if it’s one I disagree with. Dating blogging has personality. It can be engaging. It can be funny. It can get political. People have different opinions.

2. There aren’t many dating bloggers

This means rather than an oversupply, there is a shortage of good dating content. If you want to start a dating blog, the time is now.

 

But other than starting a dating blog if you want to but haven’t already, what else can you do to bring back the dating blogosphere?

Well, for a start, follow other dating blogs. Don’t just follow the big ones. Keep an eye out on Twitter for lesser-known dating bloggers with awesome content.

Share each other’s content. If you read a good post, retweet it or post it on your Facebook page. Recommend good blogs to your friends and followers.

Don’t just promote big bloggers. If you have a big platform, give a smaller blogger a shoutout. Heck, even do that if you have a small platform.

They say to practice what you preach, so to round up this post, here are some up-and-coming British dating blogs you need to be following if you’re not already.

1. Never Settle (@evegreenow)

A fellow finalist in this year’s UK Dating Awards, Eve has been blogging about dating and relationships for a while now. Her blog is super-sleek, her Instagram feed is absolute GOALS… oh and she’s really lovely in person too.

2. The Single Swan (@thesingleswan)

Read about dating from a slightly different perspective. Self-described “young(ish) single mum” Pen writes some seriously good content on dating, single parenting, and a bit of political stuff too.

3. Lucy Goes Dating (@lucygoesdating)

“Dating diary”-style blogs can get a little dull sometimes, but I get excited every time I see Lucy has written a new post because her blog is SO GOOD. Written in a quirky third-person writing style, this blog is seriously funny and so relatable.

 

Why do you think people aren’t blogging about dating as much anymore? And what smaller blogs would you recommend? Let me know in the comments!

  • Reply
    Lucy Goes Dating
    November 5, 2017 at 6:09 pm

    Ahhh, lovely Alice! Thanks so much for the support! I think you’re absolutely right about all of this in general – though if folk are worried about me disappearing, fret not. With my total lack of success with guys I’m pretty sure I’m going to be around for a good long while to come…

    • Reply
      Alice
      November 5, 2017 at 9:59 pm

      Haha don’t say that! Hopefully you’ll find someone soon 🙂

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    Giulia
    November 5, 2017 at 7:32 pm

    Thanks for sharing this list of other dating bloggers, Ill go check them out. You are so right though as to why there are so few of us. But if anything I think it should spur us on instead of deter us in carrying on blogging about dating 🙂 xx

    • Reply
      Alice
      November 5, 2017 at 10:31 pm

      Yes, in a way it’s a positive because it’s easier to stand out!

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        Giulia
        November 6, 2017 at 8:06 pm

        Exactly 🙂 we’re not competing with thousands of other people!

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    Megan
    November 5, 2017 at 10:04 pm

    This is super interesting. I’ve been in a relationship ever since I started blogging so it was never really an option for me. I love reading dating blogs though, but I just think people can be reluctant to share too much online!

    • Reply
      Alice
      November 5, 2017 at 10:32 pm

      Yes I think if you’re non-anonymous you have to be a bit more careful about what you share!

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    CUCH
    November 5, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    I stopped dating about blogging when I stopped dating. I never really rated most dating blogs in the first place, just sweeping generalisations and click bait. I unsubscribed from most of them this year, not because it was no longer useful to me, but as you commented – the quality has really gone down. I still occasionally read the brilliant And That’s Why You’re Single. It’s great medicine for all the superficial fluff that’s still around.

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      Alice
      November 5, 2017 at 10:32 pm

      Yes that’s another good point- there are a few gems out there but overall the quality has gone down!

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    The (Formerly) Unfortunate Virgin
    November 5, 2017 at 10:48 pm

    I remember there being a plethora of dating blogs when I first started blogging, but while I still follow them the vast majority lie dormant now. Some of the writers fell off the face of the earth, the rest simply found someone and saw no need to blog anymore. I don’t even blog about dating anymore because, well, I’m not dating anymore. The few dating blogs still out there are hard to come by, and most disappoint me with their lack of smutty, graphic details. I guess dating blogs were a fad that has been supplanted by beauty and fashion and travel blogs like you said.

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      Alice
      November 6, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Yes I think the purpose of blogging has definitely changed- it used to be just about getting your writing out there, now it’s about making money.

      Also if you want smutty graphic details, maybe try following some sex blogs?

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    Single Vegas Girl
    November 6, 2017 at 1:47 am

    I think you’re spot on in a lot of people not blogging about dating because they’ve found someone or they don’t find it to be a lucrative. You’re right that the time line usually doesn’t last that long and so it’s easier to have a blog that focuses on a lot of other things. I’ve found my other fellow dating bloggers thanks to twitter so it’s always fun to see what escapades they’re up to. (:

    Single Vegas Girl
    http://singlevegasgir.blogspot.com

    • Reply
      Alice
      November 6, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      Yes, I always love catching up with other people’s escapades on Twitter!

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    Annie
    November 6, 2017 at 2:10 am

    This is something I’ve never really thought about but you made some really good points about it. My dating knowledge is very limited so I think that’s why I don’t really know much about this blogging niche. I’ll definitely be checking out the bloggers you’ve listed!

    • Reply
      Alice
      November 6, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      You should- they’re great!

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    Unleashing the Cougar
    November 6, 2017 at 2:38 am

    There are still some of us blogging on the topic! Maybe you mean Millennial dating? That might also be an age and stage thing as people have suggested – partnering up and dropping out of blogging. I’m more interested in going deep into sociocultural meaning and post-internet relationships, as well as documenting through memoir experiences that I think often define dating in the current era. Hang in there 🙂

    • Reply
      Alice
      November 6, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      There are still a few of us around- but nowhere near as many as there used to be!

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    Glen Ocsko
    November 7, 2017 at 1:58 pm

    Cheers for those links – I’ve been after a few new blogs to follow! I’ve only recently been blogging about it all myself; there are even blogs relating to guys blogging than there are those aimed at women.

    Still, I’m not blogging for money so will keep going for as long as I find it interesting; I feel a need to write, so for as long as that continues so will I, regardless of whether or not anyone actually reads it!

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    Relationships Now
    November 7, 2017 at 10:55 pm

    I ask myself the same question about why people no longer blog about dating. It’s so needed. Good read!

    Relationships Now
    https://relationshipsn.com

    • Reply
      Alice
      November 11, 2017 at 4:17 pm

      Yes I love dating blogs!

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    theminglingmomma
    November 10, 2017 at 6:43 pm

    I’ve literally just started a blog about dating and being a single mom! I hope to reach single mom’s that have time to date, as I couldn’t find anything online aimed at someone in my position when I became single. I’ve had so many dates now, and even though my stories are entertaining, I’m starting to think I’ll be single forever haha! Thanks for the list of recommended bloggers, hopefully I can get some inspiration! X

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      Alice
      November 11, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      Sounds brilliant, will have to give it a read!

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    theunattainablegirlfriendexperience
    November 11, 2017 at 10:29 pm

    Thanks for posting this! Excited to read your recommendations, especially as I’ve only recently started a blog of my own – all about my ridiculous dating life of course. It’s slow going at the moment, but mostly I’m not sure how to get my writing out there. I’m keeping it anonymous right now so I can spread the word through friends and family etc. Any tips? Good news though: I’ve been keeping dating journals for the last 8 years so little chance of me running out of material any time soon!

    https://theunattainablegirlfriendexperience.wordpress.com

    • Reply
      Alice
      November 12, 2017 at 6:16 pm

      That’s really cool! I’d say get active on Twitter- that’s how I get most of my traffic!

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    theguysivedated
    November 24, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    Thanks for the advice about Twitter. I decided to finally share my dating experiences and it’s good to know how to spread the word!
    https://theguysivedated.wordpress.com

    • Reply
      Alice
      November 25, 2017 at 11:26 am

      Yeah Twitter is good for building a following!

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    singlegirlswiping
    November 26, 2017 at 7:58 pm

    I have just started a blog about my dating experiences. I started it as I think that’s dating these days is so much harder and by putting our experiences out there we are in a way supporting one another.
    Im no lyrical genius but hey I am enjoying it and that’s the whole point isn’t it?! Making people smile even I feel it’s yourself.

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      Alice
      December 1, 2017 at 8:49 pm

      Sounds good, can’t wait to read!

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    Julie B. Rose
    December 7, 2017 at 5:32 am

    Thanks for you insight… I’ve just recently started blogging about dating again… I agree, it’s fascinating content 😉

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    Viktor King
    December 14, 2017 at 5:59 pm

    I think people may not be blogging about dating as much because of your #1 reason, not much of a market. I feel like people may be too proud to go out and search for good dating advice or insight. What’s more, people are reading less and less. So, when you have so many people who don’t seek help and don’t read, what are we to do?

    I’ve recently started a dating blog where I give advice based on my own experience with dating, blogaboutdating.com. Just like its domain name, my material is pretty straightforward. Great post btw!!

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      Alice
      December 16, 2017 at 12:01 pm

      Oh that sounds interesting, will have to give it a read!

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    Jay Thomas
    December 19, 2017 at 5:18 am

    I’ve been following your blog for a bit, and I came across this post. I’ve been blogging for a while now, but I never made it public. Just my own personal tomes. I’d post them on social media, but never in a format such as WordPress. I post my personal experiences with dating, and I post “advice or strategy” to help those who are lost in the dating whirlwind.

    I believe the reason people don’t have blog like these as much as they used too, is, it takes time to do, and if it doesn’t make money, it doesn’t make sense. It was popular before, and now it’s not. Also, like someone said earlier, people don’t read as much. They are more “Video-based.” Which is why vlogging is becoming so popular and you see more dating vlogs than blogs.

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      Alice
      December 19, 2017 at 9:59 pm

      Hmm perhaps I should go into YouTube!

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    mandy mercy
    December 19, 2017 at 10:04 am

    I wrote an article about dating but it came through after I watched videos about dating on you tube

  • Reply
    Pl
    December 20, 2017 at 11:06 pm

    Welcome to My World – Suddenly Single in San Francisco -Dating at 50 in San Francisco – I’m Page Larkin – A Dating Specialist, consultant, lecturer, and support system for a lot of singles.

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    ffoughts
    December 26, 2017 at 9:27 pm

    Hi, I have recently written a post on the flaws of traditional dating (i.e. having dinner at a restaurant and just talking) and would appreciate it if you checked it out: https://ffoughts.wordpress.com/2017/12/26/reasons-to-not-date/

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    JMR
    January 2, 2018 at 8:14 pm

    Hi there! I just started blogging again about my dating adventures and misadventures, feel free to check it out!!!! http://thesluttystudy.com

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    41andfed
    January 8, 2018 at 4:11 am

    I just started a dating blog tonight called “41 and F*cked.” I would love for you to follow!

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    A. Thea
    January 10, 2018 at 4:38 am

    Nice post. I just started a dating blog. Blogging about my dating life as I get ready to turn 40. So far it’s been interesting. Not sure if I’m more open to dating bc I’m writing about it or bc I know I don’t have much time left, perhaps both. 😉

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    Chad
    January 13, 2018 at 3:32 am

    Thank you for the recommendation of blogs to read. Very interesting and entertaining. I would welcome any questions you may have for a single 47 year old man or to offer my perspectives. My sisters always liked my opinions. Cheers!

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    stephandthecityy
    January 13, 2018 at 6:43 pm

    Great read! I think you’re right, there is not much of a market for dating blogs because it’s hard to monetize it. I have been writing about dating – along with some other topics sprinkled in – for a few months now. It’s been a slow start but I’m getting the hang of it. Feel free to check it out 🙂 – stephandthecity.org

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    missmay
    January 15, 2018 at 8:38 am

    I feel like dating stories make the best material…. A lot of my blog posts make reference to dating, I couldn’t not write about it! I love reading others articles on the topic so I try and include regularly my own..

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    TwentySomeProject
    January 16, 2018 at 7:58 am

    This is interesting! My dating blog is from 2012! I’ve since married lol, but I simply LOVED blogging about my dating life!

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    louisedarcy
    January 18, 2018 at 7:29 pm

    I have just written a post about dating and adult attachment theory-I need to hear other people’s experiences-will check out your recommendations 🙂

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    noscrubs20
    January 24, 2018 at 7:46 pm

    I totally get what you mean. I’ve recently started blogging about my experiences with dating and I’m struggling to find fellow feminista bloggers to share my ridiculous anecdotes with. I think there’s some element of stigma around women having the confidence to talk about the woes of the dating world…which is a massive shame. Great post! And thank you very much for the recommendations 🙂

    • Reply
      Alice
      January 29, 2018 at 5:24 pm

      There never used to be but it hasn’t been as popular recently!

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    shayraexoxo
    February 16, 2018 at 3:35 am

    I write a blog on here of all my failed experiences! I LOVED this!!

    • Reply
      Alice
      February 16, 2018 at 1:02 pm

      Ooh sounds cool!

  • Reply
    Malou
    June 28, 2018 at 11:32 am

    I did not know dating blogging was a thing until I saw your blog mentioned in a tweet and the ‘dating’ aspect immediately caught my attention. Like you, ‘I’d rather read a longer length piece of prose with an opinion’. I personally probably couldn’t start a dating blog as I barely date haha, but I’m glad to have found out about this type of blogging!

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